Marriage Quest, Israel and Cathie Helfand, Cabot Vermont, 1-800-707-4566
Private Intensive Couples Retreat
Did you ever feel like you were just getting warmed up when the therapist said, "We need to stop now." Many people who have come to us for intensive marriage retreats have expressed similar frustration. Working on a marriage relationship deserves the luxury of time, space, and focus. It should not be rushed. In order to get to the heart of the matter, to really dig into an individual or couple's truths, enough time to really explore must be available, or progress is painfully slow.
Having 2-4 hour time blocks over the course of three days is an incredibly satisfying and empowering experience. It gives us the necessary time to address deeper-lying issues and possible solutions. Time between sessions allows for personal processing and specific customized homework to be completed.
Marriage counseling is a process of change. Clients and therapists work together to determine the marital problems, examine existing patterns, set goals for the changes the clients desire, and teach ways to reach those goals. Sometimes clients choose to work on one or two specific problems that they would like to solve, and sometimes they want to change the entire atmosphere of their marriage. Often there are long-standing issues that are causing current problems. The therapists are there to act as facilitators to reach the client's goals.
Whether your marriage is on the rocks and falling apart, or in need of a tune up, our intensive marriage retreat can help give you new tools for dealing with the issues that seem unbearable and irresolvable. Over the extended weekend couples retreat or midweek couples retreat the two of us, meeting with you privately, teach the two of you a new set of communication skills specifically designed to enhance your relationship. We then have you practice those skills with each other in our sessions, and as a part of your evenings' homework. We look for your personal-relationship challenges, and teach you ways to deal with them specifically. We help you to take things less personally, and learn to respectfully stand on your own two feet, which in turn strengthens the relationship and even reduces personal anxiety and depressed feelings.
Your typical weekend* schedule is:
*Note: Midweek retreats generally follow the same 3-day schedule.
In our couple-to-couple marriage retreats you get the full attention of two trained marriage therapists, in contrast with marriage encounters, workshops, seminars, and conferences where you are either listening to a lecture or meeting with a number of other couples. We analyze your specific problems without the distraction of others sharing the time and we find that every couple's situation is different, requiring specific individual evaluation and counseling.
We work together as a husband and wife team in our couple to couple retreats. This style of marriage counseling is very effective for many reasons; there is a balance of male-female energy, the benefit of two therapists' insights, knowledge and participation, and the role modeling of a healthy caring relationship in which there are healthy disagreements.
Traditional marriage counseling separates the couple. Either they are seen one at a time by the same therapist or they seek out two different counselors. Working together in an intensive couples retreat, we've found that many couples stay together, where in the traditional analytical process separation and divorce often occur.
While the four of us spend most of our time together in couple-to-couple sessions, we do spend an hour female-female and male-male on Day 2, and at other times, as needed. Our time together is somewhat flexible; therefore we can tailor it to your needs and wants. We get a great deal of work done in a relatively short period of time because we learn just how much to push each of you for your optimal growth. The process is deep, meaningful, and intense.
Call us toll-free at 1-800-707-4566 or 802-563-3063 and ask for Israel or Cathie. We'll be pleased to answer your questions, and provide information on available dates and pricing. In case we are busy counseling another couple at the moment, leave a message and we will return your call promptly.
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